I Cum Too Fast: 10 Tips to Better Control Your Arousal and Fight Against Premature Ejaculation
Introduction
Premature ejaculation affects many men and can often be a source of frustration, even of complexes in intimate life.
Although it is common, many people hesitate to talk about it, thinking that there is no solution. However, simple tips and adapted exercises can really help control arousal and delay orgasm.
Here are some practical and natural keys to help better manage this problem and improve sexual satisfaction, for yourself and your partner.
Although it is common, many people hesitate to talk about it, thinking that there is no solution. However, simple tips and adapted exercises can really help control arousal and delay orgasm.
Here are some practical and natural keys to help better manage this problem and improve sexual satisfaction, for yourself and your partner.
Understanding Premature Ejaculation: Demystifying the Problem
Before diving into solutions, it is essential to understand what premature ejaculation actually is.
According to sexologists, it is characterized by ejaculation which occurs systematically or almost systematically within one to two minutes after penetration, or even before it, without the man being able to control it.
This situation can result from psychological factors (stress, anxiety, lack of self-confidence) or physiological factors (excessive sensitivity, hormonal imbalance). But the good news is that there are solutions to better control this reflex.
According to sexologists, it is characterized by ejaculation which occurs systematically or almost systematically within one to two minutes after penetration, or even before it, without the man being able to control it.
This situation can result from psychological factors (stress, anxiety, lack of self-confidence) or physiological factors (excessive sensitivity, hormonal imbalance). But the good news is that there are solutions to better control this reflex.
1. Work on breathing
Breathing plays a crucial role in controlling sexual arousal.
Rapid, shallow breathing can actually accelerate arousal.
On the other hand, breathing slowly and deeply helps you to better manage your heart rate and concentrate.
Try breathing using an "abdominal breathing" technique, inhaling deeply through your nose and then exhaling slowly through your mouth.
This exercise is simple but extremely effective in calming excitement and slowing down the pace.
Rapid, shallow breathing can actually accelerate arousal.
On the other hand, breathing slowly and deeply helps you to better manage your heart rate and concentrate.
Try breathing using an "abdominal breathing" technique, inhaling deeply through your nose and then exhaling slowly through your mouth.
This exercise is simple but extremely effective in calming excitement and slowing down the pace.
2. Practice the "start and stop" technique
"Start and stop" involves stopping all stimulation when you feel orgasm approaching, and then resuming once the excitement has diminished.
This control takes some practice, but over time it becomes easier and easier to delay ejaculation.
Practicing this method alone or with a partner can bring results quickly.
This control takes some practice, but over time it becomes easier and easier to delay ejaculation.
Practicing this method alone or with a partner can bring results quickly.
3. Experiment with the compression technique
Another method to delay orgasm is the squeeze technique.
This involves gently squeezing the base of the penis when you feel ejaculation is imminent, which reduces arousal and gives you extra control over your pleasure.
This technique also takes a little practice to know exactly when to implement it.
This involves gently squeezing the base of the penis when you feel ejaculation is imminent, which reduces arousal and gives you extra control over your pleasure.
This technique also takes a little practice to know exactly when to implement it.
4. Strengthen the PC muscle with Kegel exercises
The pubococcygeus muscle (or PC muscle) is a key muscle in the control of ejaculation.
Kegel exercises, which involve contracting and releasing this muscle, help strengthen it.
To locate this muscle, think of the feeling when you hold back a stream of urine.
Contract it, hold the contraction for a few seconds, then release. Repeat the exercise several times a day.
Over time, you will see a significant improvement in your ejaculation control.
Kegel exercises, which involve contracting and releasing this muscle, help strengthen it.
To locate this muscle, think of the feeling when you hold back a stream of urine.
Contract it, hold the contraction for a few seconds, then release. Repeat the exercise several times a day.
Over time, you will see a significant improvement in your ejaculation control.
5. Use a delay condom
Delay condoms, available in pharmacies, often contain a small dose of anesthetic agent, which slightly reduces sensitivity.
This reduction in sensation can help you delay ejaculation.
Although this is not a permanent solution, it can be useful temporarily while you master other techniques.
This reduction in sensation can help you delay ejaculation.
Although this is not a permanent solution, it can be useful temporarily while you master other techniques.
6. Try delay gels and creams
Like delay condoms, some gels or creams can reduce the sensitivity of the penis.
Applied a few minutes before the act, they act as a local anesthetic, helping to delay ejaculation.
Be careful, however, to read the instructions carefully and avoid contact of these products with your partner's mucous membranes to avoid any irritation.
Applied a few minutes before the act, they act as a local anesthetic, helping to delay ejaculation.
Be careful, however, to read the instructions carefully and avoid contact of these products with your partner's mucous membranes to avoid any irritation.
7. Work on communication and foreplay
Dialogue with your partner and a fulfilling sexuality are essential elements for relaxation.
It may be beneficial to spend more time on foreplay to prolong the pleasure, without focusing on penetration.
Good communication also helps reduce pressure and develop better mutual understanding.
Less stress often leads to more control.
It may be beneficial to spend more time on foreplay to prolong the pleasure, without focusing on penetration.
Good communication also helps reduce pressure and develop better mutual understanding.
Less stress often leads to more control.
8. Reduce stress and anxiety
Performance anxiety is one of the most common causes of premature ejaculation.
Feeling pressured or worried about your partner's reaction can precipitate ejaculation.
To help with this, try practicing relaxation exercises, such as yoga or meditation, which can help reduce daily stress.
The idea is to stay calm and approach the sexual act in a relaxed manner.
Feeling pressured or worried about your partner's reaction can precipitate ejaculation.
To help with this, try practicing relaxation exercises, such as yoga or meditation, which can help reduce daily stress.
The idea is to stay calm and approach the sexual act in a relaxed manner.
9. Vary positions
Some sex positions are more conducive to control than others.
For example, positions where you have more freedom of movement, such as the "andromache" position (woman on top), allow you to slow down the pace if you feel the excitement building too quickly.
The key is to experiment to find what works best for you, and adjust the pace as you feel.
For example, positions where you have more freedom of movement, such as the "andromache" position (woman on top), allow you to slow down the pace if you feel the excitement building too quickly.
The key is to experiment to find what works best for you, and adjust the pace as you feel.
10. Consult a professional if necessary
If, despite your efforts, premature ejaculation persists, it may be wise to consult a sexologist or a therapist specializing in sexual disorders.
A professional will be able to help you better understand the underlying causes of your premature ejaculation and support you in appropriate therapies, such as cognitive behavioral therapy, which has proven effective in many cases.
A professional will be able to help you better understand the underlying causes of your premature ejaculation and support you in appropriate therapies, such as cognitive behavioral therapy, which has proven effective in many cases.
Conclusion: progressive and benevolent self-mastery
Controlling your ejaculation is not an impossible mission.
It's a matter of patience, practice and kindness to yourself.
These different techniques offer you a global approach to working on your control and taming your excitement.
Premature ejaculation should not be a barrier to a fulfilling sex life, but rather an opportunity to learn to better understand and control your body.
By following these tips, you will be able to gradually regain self-confidence, improve your performance, and above all, have more fun with your partner.
It's a matter of patience, practice and kindness to yourself.
These different techniques offer you a global approach to working on your control and taming your excitement.
Premature ejaculation should not be a barrier to a fulfilling sex life, but rather an opportunity to learn to better understand and control your body.
By following these tips, you will be able to gradually regain self-confidence, improve your performance, and above all, have more fun with your partner.
In any case, remember that every step forward, even a small one, is a step towards a more serene and fulfilling sexuality.
